As should be clear from all of my posts on this thread, I personally have no issue with giving help where its been asked, though I think it is much better to be somewhat oblique rather than just revealing an answer.
What I do object to is the revealing of information that has not been requested. For example, look back at posts #17 & #19 in this thread. s_pugh stated that he had cold solved all of the clues. Assuming that to be the case, he certainly had most, if not all, of the starred letters filled in. No one had asked for help on the starred letters. So for you to not only reveal them but also to put them in order is, to me, objectionable. You explicitly revealed ~8% of the cells; that's a lot.
Of course there are much, much worse things than revealing answers to a crossword. So? That does not excuse it. There are many things worse than littering, but people will rightly object if one litters.