Thanks ChrisE
As you say, I missed the three letter word out, which I took to be THE.
I have now got 7dn and, as is usually the way, could kick myself for not seeing it earlier. My excuse, if any, is that is 52 years since my own marriage and my other half certainly didn't have one of these as we met and married in a few months. Still struggling with 1,13 but think I may have used the last word in my previous sentence.