xwordfan You kindly supplied the answer to 13d
'For now, mostly fat round maidens like women-only bars'= 'Asymmetric'. I can see a little of the wordplay,('mm' for 'maidens') but can't settle until I've understood it in full. Can you - or some other sympathetic soul - put me out of my misery?
I must say this puzzle seemed unusually taxing.